When it comes to positive thinking, I’m not a big fan of the “sweep-the-shit-under-the-rug” school of thought. Let’s face it, sometimes life gets bumpy. Sometimes things go wrong. Sometimes things happen that just plain suck.
For me, maintaining a positive focus is less about pretending that the bad stuff doesn’t exist, and more about making sure I acknowledge that it’s only one slice of the pie when it happens.
Somehow when things go sideways, it’s easy to let the negative swell up to monumental proportions, minimizing and even obscuring whatever positive there is in our lives. We end up with a case of the sure-buts. “SURE this good thing is happening, BUT look at this crappy part of my life…” And with that, our mind is off to the races, focusing almost exclusively on what’s wrong.
Somehow, when we experience a negative, it can be hard to acknowledge that the positive has any importance. It’s like we have to have it black or white, and can’t let them both exist at once.
But the reality is that both positive and negative *can* exist simultaneously. I can have a part of my life that is really stressing me out, and that doesn’t diminish another part that I can really be grateful for and happy about. The only thing that diminishes that positive part is my lack of attention to it.
So next time you find yourself supersizing your negatives and neglecting your positives, stop and do a reality check. What’s positive in your life? What can you be thankful for? What do you enjoy? What is working well?
Then think of it as a pie chart, where all those things, plus the negative, add up to 100% of the pie. Is the negative *really* taking up 98.7% of the pie, or are you exaggerating? (Hint: You’re probably exaggerating.) The more you can keep the proportion of the negative in perspective, the easier it is to fully appreciate the positive.
Guest post written by Curt Rosengren - Passion Catalyst (tm) - web: http://www.passioncatalyst.com