I often hear people talk about the things that make them happy. My new car makes me happy. A beautiful day makes me happy. He makes me happy. I understand that statements like this are common. I even catch myself using this type of language now and again. However, no person or thing can make us happy. We choose happiness. Happiness comes from within. It is an internal process. It would be more accurate to say I feel happy when I am in my new car. I realize some of you may think that this distinction is trivial and just about semantics. I assure you, though, that it is a very important distinction.
When we say that something makes us happy, it reinforces the idea that external things create happiness. If we believe that things outside of us cause our happiness, then when those things disappear, so does our happiness. However, when we realize that happiness is an inside job and we take ownership of our feelings, happiness can be long lasting. We can choose happiness anytime - regardless of our external circumstances.
Here are a few tips to help you increase your happiness.
- Keep a gratitude journal and each day record at least 3 things in your life for which you are grateful.
- Use positive self-talk. Remember that your thoughts directly impact your emotions. Happy thoughts lead to happy feelings.
- Practice kindness. Reach out and help those in need.
- Check-ins. Several times each day check in to see how you are feeling. If you are not happy, shift your thoughts and feelings to happy ones.
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